Becoming Her

We’ve all been tempted to pour our feelings into a long text, hoping someone will finally understand. But here’s the truth: if someone values you, they will make space to listen. If they don’t, they won’t. It’s that simple. Writing out pages of your heart won’t change that, it will only leave you feeling emptier if it’s not absorbed.

But here’s the second truth, and it’s harder to swallow: not everything is about you. Just as you go through seasons of highs and lows, emotional peaks and valleys, so do other people. Maybe, just maybe, they’re navigating something you don’t know about. That doesn’t excuse neglect or disregard, but it does remind us that silence or distance isn’t always rejection.

Detachment Requires Strength and Compassion

Detaching doesn’t mean lashing out in anger or cutting someone off with bitterness. Detachment means:

Saying your peace once.

Recognizing when your energy is no longer being met.

Releasing the need to force an outcome.

The key?  Detachment can be firm and kind. You can hold boundaries without cruelty. You can walk away with compassion.

Why Begging Never Works

Your energy speaks louder than your words. Desperation is always felt, even if your message is wrapped in love. And desperation pushes people away, it never pulls them closer. When you stop begging, you reclaim your dignity and your peace.

Redirect Your Focus

When the urge to hold on feels overwhelming, choose redirection:

Move your body! Exercise, dance, go for a walk. Put your bare feet to the earth.

Create -cook, paint, write, garden.

Connect-call a friend, join a class, volunteer to help in some way

Rest—journal, take a bath, read a book, go to the movies or window shopping.


And if social media stirs up more anxiety than peace, take a detox. Step away from the constant noise.

Detachment isn’t about punishing the other person; it’s about protecting your peace. You can be kind. You can be compassionate. And you can still say: this is where I step back.

Remember: detachment with love is not weakness.

It’s one of the strongest things you’ll ever do.