Becoming Her

Emotions are not the enemy. They are messengers, indicators, and guides,just like our five senses. Touch a hot stove, and your nerves scream a warning:  Yo! don’t do that again. Hear an alarm, and you know to pay attention: something needs action. Emotions function in much the same way. They rise up to tell us something is happening inside, anger, sadness, joy, excitement and with them come powerful chemical reactions in our brain and body.
While emotions are natural and necessary, what we do with them is where wisdom comes in.
Why Silence Matters
Every word we speak carries creative power. Words can heal, build, and inspire. They can also destroy, divide, and leave wounds that linger long after an apology. Silence gives us space between what we feel and what we say. It’s that sacred pause where discernment lives.
Think about anger. In the heat of it, words can fly like flaming arrows. Relationships can be torn apart in a single outburst, sometimes never quite mended again. Silence, on the other hand, gives us a chance to breathe, to feel the anger without letting it take the wheel, and to respond rather than react. Not vindictive silence, intentional not hurtful.
The same goes for excitement. When we’re overflowing with joy or inspiration, we might overpromise, say “yes!!” to more than we can handle, or reveal plans before they’re ready. Our enthusiasm is beautiful, but unchecked it can leave us overextended, stressed, and even regretful. Silence helps us temper the high with wisdom.
Practicing silence doesn’t mean suppressing emotions or avoiding conversation. It means being selective about:
What we say: Do these words align with my values? Are they kind, necessary, and true?
When we say it: Am I speaking from clarity or from a surge of temporary emotion?
Who we say it to: Not every emotion needs an audience. Not every thought deserves to be shared in the moment. Sometimes silence honors our boundaries better than words ever could.
Silence as Strength
Many people mistake silence for weakness, but in reality, it is a form of strength. It takes self-control to hold your tongue when your emotions are screaming.

 It takes wisdom to recognize that not every thought needs to be spoken aloud. And it takes courage to sit with your feelings without rushing to offload them onto someone else. This has been a lifelong lesson, journey for myself.
Practicing silence is not about being passive, it’s about being powerful with your words. It’s about knowing that when you do speak, your words will carry weight, intention, and meaning.

Next time you feel a rush of emotion, pause. Imagine a space between the feeling and the words. Ask yourself:
What is this emotion telling me?
Do I need to speak it, or simply feel it?
If I speak, will my words build or break?
Silence is not emptiness—it is the soil where wisdom grows.